Scheana Shay Opens up About Suffering a Miscarriage: "It's Still Been a Lot to Process"

Scheana Shay revealed that she suffered a miscarriage after getting pregnant this spring.

She first shared the sad news during an emotional episode of her Scheananigans podcast released on June 26. "I have always been an open book, and I have always told you guys everything that's going on in my life. So many of you have followed me on my fertility journey over the last year-and-a-half, and this is a part of it. It's just a sad part," Scheana shared. "A few weeks ago, we found out that I was pregnant."

Scheana had previously been told by her doctors that "it would be close to impossible" to get pregnant on her own because she has a very low ovarian reserve, or egg count. She underwent an egg retrieval twice last year and was getting ready for a third procedure in an effort to freeze her eggs.

A few weeks prior to recording the podcast episode, Scheana missed her period. At first, she didn't think much of it, even after throwing up while away in Arizona. But a session with a tarot card reader four days after she missed her period, in which she told Scheana, "You have a child today if you want it," made her think something else was happening.

So, Scheana bought a pregnancy test, which turned out to be positive. She even bought four more pregnancy tests, for a total of five, all of which came up positive. "I'm just like, oh my god, we weren't even trying. This is a miracle. I'm so happy," Scheana recalled. "We're just freaking out, but we're so excited because we didn't know or think it was possible."

Scheana then went to get a blood test, which confirmed that she was two to three weeks pregnant. In addition to her boyfriend Brock Davies, Scheana also told her mom, Erika van Olphen, and her sister, Cortney, about her pregnancy. She decided to wait to surprise her dad, Ron, with her happy news on Father's Day.

About five weeks into the pregnancy, Scheana started bleeding during a trip to San Diego for Brock's birthday. "I just felt off. I felt like I felt pregnant a couple weeks before and then I just felt normal," she said. "But I was still bleeding all weekend. It wasn't stopping."

After getting some blood work done through her family doctor, Scheana's OBGYN performed an ultrasound and found that there was no heartbeat, nothing was progressing, and she had lost the pregnancy. "Obviously just devastating. We were so excited. To be so excited for a few weeks and then it's just like gone so quickly," Scheana shared. "It's still been a lot to process because now I'm at home, and I'm just waiting to naturally miscarry."

Scheana said that she was "feeling normal but still treating my body as if I'm pregnant, which is a complete mindf--k." She added that it felt like "literally the worst thing I've ever waited for in my entire life."

It's been difficult for Scheana to process everything that has happened in such a short amount of time. "So many women have experienced this, but that doesn't make it any easier. Even though I was only 6 1/2 weeks, that doesn't make it any easier," she said. "We still got so excited for something that isn't happening anymore. It's been really, really tough to wrap my head around."

Scheana said her heart goes out to anyone who has had to deal with a miscarriage. "It's terrifying, and it's terrible, and I would not ever wish this upon anyone. I have so, so, so much empathy for anyone who has been through this because no one should ever have to go through this. It is just the worst feeling," she said. "But I think it's something that's important to talk about because I think a lot of women don't talk about the hard parts of fertility. They hide it, they're embarrassed by it, they think it's their fault. They think that they did something wrong. And I know there's nothing wrong that I did. I know that it happens, and it's unfortunate, but it happens."

Brock has found this hard to talk about, and he's been "so angry," according to Scheana. "Life isn't always sunshine and f--king rainbows, I am well aware of that. Sometimes you just go through some really s---ty things," Scheana said. "But I hope that it makes us stronger. I think it's brought Brock and I even closer together."

One silver lining to all of this is that Scheana knows now more than ever that she's ready to become a mom. "I just now know that I can get pregnant on my own," she shared. "I now know we do want this, we are ready for this, and we're gonna try again."

Scheana shared an update in a video posted on her YouTube channel on July 1, confirming that her OBGYN performed a D&C (Dilation and Curettage) procedure in his office on June 25. "Thankfully, it was done rather quickly. I was really, really out of it after," Scheana said. "Brock drove up yesterday, my mom went to the grocery store for me, got me all of my favorite things. I had a nice fro-yo and just cuddled my boyfriend and just watched some Netflix and just tried to relax. I got a good 12 hours sleep, which I think my body really needed because I just felt so lethargic and sad and just out of it lately." 

"But today, I'm having a good day," she continued. "And like I said on my podcast, I'm trying to embrace when I'm having those good days because I don't know when I'm going to have them."

Scheana thanked everyone for all of their love and support in the video, which also featured moments she captured throughout the journey. "I so appreciate all of you who have reached out and shared your stories. My heart goes out to all of you, anyone who's been through this," she said. "It's the absolute worst, and I just want to say that all of you reaching out has really, really meant a lot to me, and I love you all."

She later opened up more about why she decided to share her story in her latest podcast episode released on July 3. "I felt like last week was obviously a very tough week for me. I know it was the most difficult podcast I've ever recorded. I thank all of you who listened to all of it," Scheana said. "I just really wanted to get my story out my way... I just wanted to put everything out on my own platform, in my own voice."