Lisa Defines Character Assassination

Hello. Thank you for all your comments on last week's episode regarding the swing. Many of you, like myself, are true romantics at heart. Anyway, I have had a magical few days away with my husband, so feeling rested and ready to dissect this complicated and convoluted situation.

We have all, including Brandi, acknowledged the fact that this issue should never have been aired, but let us not forget, it was out of frustration. It was never "character assassination" as Adrienne said. That term is used far too freely. It was a truthful statement that should not have been exposed, but it was a result of some deep and unresolved issues between them.

Ironically it appears that many who witnessed the fiasco at Mauricio's event have conveniently forgotten the barrage of insults thrown at Brandi, calling her a drug addict and neglectful mother!?! (Which in my opinion were much closer to an assassination of her character.) They were all present witnessing that. I wasn't there, and have only seen this recently. . .how one-sided can this be? Yolanda states that the men should keep out of it, but I don't think for one minute if I was alone and under pressure, like Brandi was at that time, that David would sit back. I am positive he would defend me. That is the only involvement Ken had.

We certainly of late have seen a different side of Mauricio and, like Faye, he seems quick in attacking Brandi. She becomes increasingly frustrated in her attempt to defend herself, also smarting from the fact that she was the recipient of a costly legal letter that she could ill afford.

She becomes exasperated, then her language goes south and then that is all the ammunition that some need in order to criticize her. I agree with Marisa (who at this point I really don't know) wholeheartedly. It should stay between the two of them. I was resolute in the fact that when I had my issue with Adrienne I preferred to deal with her directly. I hated the conversation between Taylor and Camille, so inappropriate to discuss the marriage between David and his ex-wife, with Taylor saying she knew things about that. I know Yolanda and David to have a healthy, wonderful marriage. . .Enough said.

We then see Adrienne and Paul arrive for dinner. Mauricio and Kyle reassure them that they have had their back at all times, so cementing this very important relationship. . .Now when you are on this express train, things are moving quickly. Sometimes it's hard to be objective, but when you pause and you have a chance to reflect, you see things differently. Upon reflection I don't personally see the difference in the litigious letter that was sent to Camille from Russell. Maybe the subject matter was different, but the outcome the same. I am sure Taylor would argue the point that what was exposed about her was potentially more damaging than this matter. Paul and Adrienne, with Kyle and Mauricio's support were vociferous in stating that intimidation legally was unacceptable between friends. They were barred from the party, uninvited to Hawaii, and ostracized from the group. Everybody supported Camille, even though she certainly had more resources to deal with this than Brandi. So where did it change? I an finding this difficult to fathom.

It was a brief respite to see the wonderful visuals that Mohamed's house ensues. Loved the decorating! I know this family extremely well and admire the fact that they congregate harmoniously. We are often included in small gatherings, so I know firsthand the love and respect that is shared between all.

The next scene with Faye. . .couldn't watch. Bad enough to listen to her diatribe but can't watch her bragging, had to skip it.

We all are meeting at this art gallery, Ken and I have dinner plans, so we are just there briefly. I was mystified at Mauricio's comment that I was holding a grudge, as I greeted him as I normally would. Funny Kyle keeps bringing that up. If I truly held a grudge, I would never have socialized with many of these women ever again!

Ken playfully teased Mauricio, but knew it to be a peace offering and dealt with it as men do, moving on.

Anyway,it is not an easy situation and believe me there are no winners! I send you positive thoughts, love and happiness until next week.

Love always Lisa.