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Michelle Obama Reveals the Secret to Her Successful Marriage — And It Wasn't What We Expected

Oddly, it's Howard Stern's advice for a happy marriage, too.

By Marianne Garvey Oct 11, 2018, 4:23 PM ET

Michelle and Barack Obama have always been #couplegoals, and now the former first lady is revealing one of the main reasons why their love has remained so strong.

She is currently in New York promoting her new book, Becoming, and made an appearance on NBC's Today show to talk about it — oh, and also to launch a program to boost educational opportunities for girls around the world. Isn't she the greatest? Yes. Yes, she is. (Miss you, Michelle!)

But she's made it clear she's not coming back to the White House. When asked if she would ever run for president, Michelle said, "Absolutely not."

"I have never wanted to be a politician. I want to serve, I want to be out there. There's so many ways to make an impact. Politics just isn't my thing," she added.

But enough about that.

These two special lovebugs, married for 26 years, are still so in love. Look. Look at the love. Isn't it nice?

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Thrilled to be back home on the South Side! @BarackObama and I canât wait to spend the next few days with young leaders from across the country and around the world. Join us as we kick off the @ObamaFoundation Summit by tuning in at obama.org. #ObamaSummit
A post shared by Michelle Obama (@michelleobama) on Oct 31, 2017 at 1:00pm PDT

Presumably, they even shared the same bed in the White House! (Unlike Donald and Melania Trump, who, according to some reports, may not even live there together, let alone share sheets.)

When asked what makes her marriage work, Michelle's answer was amazing. Not therapy, not time apart, not supporting each other, not their daughters... no, she had a specific idea in mind.

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You canât tell it from this photo, but Barack woke up on our wedding day in October, 1992 with a nasty head cold. Somehow, by the time I met him at the altar, it had miraculously disappeared and we ended up dancing almost all night. Twenty five years later, weâre still having fun, while also doing the hard work to build our partnership and support each other as individuals. I canât imagine going on this wild ride with anybody else.
A post shared by Michelle Obama (@michelleobama) on May 23, 2018 at 4:03am PDT

So what was it?

"One of the keys to a successful marriage is separate bathrooms," Michelle said.

You know who else advises couples to always have separate bathrooms (if they can)? Howard Stern. Two brilliant people can't be wrong.

As for our current political climate (which could drive you to the bathroom for any number of reasons), Michelle says to hang in there.

"Fear is not a proper motivator. Hope wins out,'"she said. 'If you think about how you want your kids to be raised... do you want them afraid of their neighbors? Do you want them angry, do you want them vengeful?"

"We think of values we want to promote to your children. Which motto do you want them to live by?" she concluded.

I guess that would be togetherness as a nation ... and also separate bathrooms for all couples.