Mariah Is Not the Girl I Knew

Quad made such a grand entrance at Mariah's party. I greeted her with politely, but from the moment she arrived, it was obvious that her intentions were to hurt me.

Nonetheless, I continued to try and be nice but I knew that she was just looking for trouble. As she said, she wanted to "skin a cat",  and she chose her best friend's party to do it. I am still puzzled as to why she was so hateful towards me, I had been nothing but nice to her, apart from the psychologist instead of psychiatrist comment.

I have to congratulate her on her use of alliteration with her cute little term "Medical Mistress" But she is wrong. I was never my husband's mistress or anyones mistress. A mistress implies secrecy and deceit. From the very beginning our relationship was out in the open. I always had too much self esteem to play second fiddle to another woman. I come from a family that values marriage. My parents have been married for 60 years and they are still going strong. I have great respect for that. I never had trouble finding a man and would certainly not pick one who was in a marriage. When I met my husband 11 years ago, I would not even have dinner with him until he faxed me a document showing me he was legally separated. He was leaving his short childless (and loveless) marriage. They both amicably signed the separation agreement and went their separate ways until the divorce. Since then, we have shared 11 magical years together and we are proud parents of our two wonderful children.

After that ridiculous scene I walked away since I did not want to be sucked into any more high school drama with Quad. But soon after, she came back for more. It was insufferable. It was like dealing with a bratty child. For her to keep saying that I was mean to her or that I lied about her is just a joke.

So now for round two, she wants to fight with me some more (in public!) and she so decides to bring up more of my past and mention the anorexic clinic. There are so many levels on which that insult hurt me that I do not even know where to begin.

First she insulted everyone who is suffering from anorexia. It is a serious disease. Many young women (and sometimes young men), die from this disorder. It is a heartbreaking condition and one that causes intense mental suffering. I was diagnosed with anorexia in my late teens and it is an was a very painful (and private until now) part of my life. Through the grace of God and a good psychologist, I was able to overcome this and move on to good health. It is a stage of my life that I am not proud of and it hurts me even today thinking about the sadness that I endured.

If anyone reading this is suffering from an eating disorder of any kind, my strong advice would be to go get help, the sooner the better. Tell somebody about it today. Only with proper psychological treatment can you move on from this sad chapter of your life. It is possible. Believe me. I am living proof of that.

Quad was SO happy that she had barbed me with this with her comments. "Strike." It speaks volumes about her as a person. Second, she directly insulted my appearance, making me feel like I look sick. For someone who once had an eating disorder, it is very insulting and hurtful.

In the end all I can say is that I am deeply sorry for her in that she gains such pleasure in hurting others. Of course I would not want to bring that energy into my home and any friend of mine would have supported me disinviting her to another event.

I was so gratified to see that Toya and Dr. SimoneM stood up and spoke out against Quad's cruel behavior.

It is sad to watch the scenes with Mariah. She is clearly showing me by her words and her actions as I watch now, that she was not my friend. In the time that I had known Mariah, I could count on one hand the times we had actually spent together but I had considered her a friend and I truly thought that she was. Now, it is crystal clear to me that I did not know her. I do not recognize the person I am watching. That is not the girl that I thought I knew. Shame on me for allowing myself to get sucked into such petty high school drama.

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