Why Gretchen Rossi was 'Selfish' for Forgiving Tamra

After seeing last season's Real Housewives of Orange County, Gretchen Rossi decided it was time for an emotional makeover. "I watched myself on the show and I saw that I've become kind of a bitter person," the RHOC star confides to iVillage. "I was angry. I was mad. I was not myself and I had a lot of negative energy because of something that I was angry at Tamra for doing to me. I just realized that's not me. I really wanted to get the positive back in my life."

So how did G go about finding her Zen again? "I knew the only way to do that would be to forgive and just move forward, and say, 'OK, you know what? It is what it is and I have to forgive you.'"

Now before you start showering her with compliments, the animal lover and handbag designer admits, "It was really more of a selfish thing for myself, and in the process of doing that, Tamra and I actually made up and are kind of friendly."

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