Ramona Singer Reveals Why a Man "Ghosted" Her After Five Dates

Ramona Singer knows first-hand that navigating the dating world isn’t always easy — especially when you’re in the public eye.

The Real Housewives of New York City alum tackled the topic on Turtle Time, a newly launched podcast series she co-hosts with Avery Singer. The May 17 episode, titled “Dating on Reality TV,” found the mother and daughter dishing on love and sex, as well as the unique challenges they face as single women with public profiles. 

Ramona maintained that dating in today’s landscape is much harder for everyone; however, Avery argued that it was particularly difficult for those with a certain level of fame. 

“It’s harder for us… us, as in you and me,” Avery said. “When you have that added layer of you can Google us… there’s a lot of preconceived notions of who we are, what we are, and what we think without actually knowing us.”

Ramona agreed and revealed she keeps her reality TV background under wraps until after a few dates.

“I usually do not tell men I’m on the show until, like, the second or third date,” she said. “And then a lot of times they find out and they go, ‘You’re a great, great girl, but not for me.’”

The Real Housewives Ultimate Girls Trip cast member then explained how technology has hurt the courtship process, as smartphones and dating apps have hindered authentic connections and communication. Although Avery acknowledged how these advances have increased the prevalence of hookup culture, she pointed out that some casual encounters have resulted in long-lasting relationships and even marriage.

“I agree, mom. All it takes is one awesome person,” the BachBoss co-founder said. “However, ghosting has become way more normalized right now.”

“Ghosting” is a controversial practice in which an individual cuts all contact with someone without explanation. While it can involve any kind of relationship, it's most commonly used in casual romantic situations.

“Well, you know what, it’s interesting you said that,” Ramona added, before sharing her own “ghosting” story. “I went out, I met this guy, we really hit it off, he really liked me… And then, all of a sudden, he just stopped, right? I went on, like, five dates with him and I was really enjoying his company. We were really getting along.”

After she had not heard from the man for some time, Ramona decided to reach out via text and invited him to an event.

“I said, ‘Oh, by the way, you know, what are you doing Friday night? I’m invited to something, would you like to come with me?’” she recalled. “So he did respond and said, ‘Listen, Ramona, you’re a really nice woman, but I found out you’re on that show, and I just cannot be involved with that, so have a great life.”

Avery pushed back and said that didn’t qualify as a “ghost,” because her mom eventually received an explanation. While there was some mild disagreement on whether the incident could be considered ghosting, the two ultimately agreed the practice was “not cool.”

“I’ve never ghosted someone,” Ramona said. “It’s rude. It’s not kind, it’s rude. And for me to say it’s not kind —”

“That’s when you know; if Ramona Singer is saying something is rude and unkind and ghosting is not cool...” Avery interjected. “Wait, what's the [Luann de Lesseps] line? Don't be so uncool... Be cool, everyone. Don’t ghost. Not cute.”