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Harry Dubin Opens Up About His Relationships with Sonja Morgan and Luann de Lesseps

Harry says that Sonja gave him a bath on their first date.

By Hannah Chambers
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Harry Dubin is finally spilling some major tea. The man has multiple connections to The Real Housewives of New York; besides appearing on the show multiple times, he was “on and off” with Sonja Morgan for years, married to Aviva Drescher, briefly involved with Luann de Lesseps and Kelly Bensimon, and kissed Ramona Singer. Now, on an episode of Behind the Velvet Rope with David Yontef, he’s opening up about the details of his dating history. 

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First, Harry described the night he and Sonja met in Washington DC when they were both in their twenties. He says approached her while she was dancing, but only got her first name. 

“This was before the days of cell phones, so we’re talking a long time ago. I had a car phone,” Harry explained. “We had a great time. She said she was staying at the Park Hyatt hotel. There’s ten of them in Washington DC. She left, and I scoured the city looking for her hotel room. I only knew her name...Sonja.” 

About an hour later, Harry finally found Sonja’s hotel room. From there, they went to a jazz bar, and eventually came back to Sonja’s room later that night where she bathed Harry. 

“It was great. To this day I tell her that,” Harry said of the first date bath.

At the time, Harry was living in DC and Sonja was living in New York, so they’d visit one another for about a year until Harry got engaged to another woman. “It never really ended with her, but it ended,” he said. 

“We’ve been very close since then,” Harry said of his current relationship with Sonja, adding, “I have the utmost respect for her and I love her to death.” 

As for his connection with Luann, Harry says that they met at one of Sonja’s cocktail parties at her townhouse, about a year before she became a cast member. Harry explained that each week, Sonja would throw a cocktail party, and then they’d all go to a nearby restaurant for dinner. The night that Harry met Luann, she decided that she didn’t want to go to the dinner, so she pulled Harry into a cab and they “had a very nice evening.” 

“That’s the way Luann is. She goes after what she wants and she gets it. You can’t really deny that,” said Harry, explaining that it ended up being more than a “one time thing,” but now, he’s “totally friends with everybody.” 

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