Lydia McLaughlin: My Feelings Were Definitely Hurt
"...I'm really sensitive about being left out."
Iceland is like no place I’ve ever been. It is beautiful and full of adventure. You can check out the feature article our team did for NOBLEMAN Magazine here.
I was really excited for the girls and myself to be out of our comfort zones and go on adventures together. This world is so full of beauty, and I’m grateful that it’s part of my job to explore and get to experience it.
The first night we arrived, Fridrik, our host, had planned an Icelandic dinner and drinks for us. Shannon and Tamra never texted me to say they weren’t coming. I totally understand that we had been traveling all day and night and if they wanted to stay in, no big deal. However, no one told me that.
When we went to my room for a night cap, and I heard about the group text, my feelings were definitely hurt. I’m an inclusive person, and apparently, I’m really sensitive about being left out. I simply found it odd that someone wouldn’t text the host but would text everyone else. In my mind, I’m thinking, “Why would Tamra leave me out? Did they all want to talk behind my back?” It wasn’t a good feeling, and I had planned to bring it up to Tamra the next day.
The next day at lunch, I went to the table, and Shannon was sitting there, whispering to Tamra about it. This was annoying because I didn’t want to make it into a big ordeal. When Tamra is defensive and not hearing my heart, I am extremely frustrated. I feel like I didn’t want it to be a big deal, and somehow the situation spun out and became a scene. I was also frustrated that she was dismissing my feelings. I guess I was just looking for a simple apology. I never should have thrown the menu, and I regret losing my temper.
I am so grateful that Vicki talked to me and gave me advice. I’m also thankful I was able to pull Tamra aside and talk it out because that is what friends do. At the end of the day, I think it was an oversight, and I don’t think Tamra did it on purpose. I really treasure my friendship with Tamra and would never want something as silly as a group text to jeopardize that. Watching it all back, I understand Tamra’s reaction more.
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