Melissa: Amber was Looking to Argue

Hi everyone!

Let's just get right into the episode. I will admit sometimes I'm not a fan of writing these blogs, because you have to put yourself back in the mindset you had when these situations happened. I deal with a situation and move on. Life is too short, and when you feel there is someone around you that's not going to be a positive in your life, then why bother?

This is how I feel when it comes to Amber. I feel like she came back into my life with so many negative things to say about me and negative feelings. I don't buy that she just wanted to rekindle our friendship and make me "her friend of the year." I don't see her trying to be my friend at all. 

Amber wants to act as if I'm not loyal? Well, where is her loyalty to me? Was she being loyal when she came right off the bat saying that I married my husband for money? Is she being loyal when she came on accusing me of being a horrible friend, after not seeing me for close to ten years and accusing me of not being there for her when she had cancer? No, I don't see that as a friend trying to rekindle a friendship at all. I see it as an old friend coming around to try to throw me under the bus. And there is A LOT you didn't get to see, so no, I don't believe Amber has nothing but good intentions.

Amber has also been ranting in her blogs and on Twitter, trying to remind everyone how our family had so many problems and that MUST make me a bad person and somehow prove that she and her husband are justified in their actions. Amber, do me a favor and stay out of my family business. It has nothing to do with you and you don't know the true details. You were a guest at my wedding ten years ago and never even met my children. So the ONLY things you know about what has been happening in MY life is by watching our show as a fan for the past three seasons.

I welcomed Amber, I introduced her to my family, my friends, and I feel she intended to throw me under the bus from day one. I've said multiple times in my previous blogs that I accept the part I played in the situation with Nicole. I was ready to discuss it and move on. It just seems that Amber constantly wants to put the blame on me for all of this. It's obvious she's playing the blame game and it's a way for her to try and get people not to focus on the fact that she was a bad friend to Nicole and spread a rumor that "she heard through the grapevine" about her in the first place. It's very transparent and I'm not buying it.

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As far as Amber, Dina, and Teresa going to the spa together right after that all happened... I'm a little confused as to what I saw there too. Amber apologized for her husband right away to Dina and Teresa. But I guess I don't deserve one? Amber was also so "emotional" and "teary-eyed" when she was explaining to the girls how "hurt" she was that I betrayed her. But when I went to talk to her about everything over lunch, she was acting very pompous, very rude, and was looking to argue. So which is it? Was she just trying to get sympathy from the girls? What are her true feelings? She flips around so much it's hard to believe anything is real. I feel like I keep meeting her for drinks, for lunches, keep trying to move on with her and she just doesn't stop. So I needed to let her know that I'm not sure what her agenda is and that I do not trust her. 

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As far as Dina calling me passive aggressive, I actually found it kind of funny because I know throughout the season you'll probably see me call Dina passive aggressive too. I really feel like she gives a lot of mixed signals to a lot of people, especially Amber. She's constantly questioning her sincerity, her tears, her authenticity. She's constantly rolling her eyes at Amber and she definitely doesn't like her husband. So if I'm passive aggressive, then I guess pot meet kettle, LOL!

And finally I want to say that I am proud of my husband for having self-control with Jim. I know it probably wasn't easy, but I think he took one for the team for what it's worth.

There's plenty more to come! Hope you're enjoying the new season and see you next week! 

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Much love,
Melissa
Xoxo