Kyle on Carlton's "Labeling" Obsession

For last week's Reunion I didn't write a blog because I feel that the Reunion IS where we explain everything.

It's also not to easy go back (almost a year now) and keep rehashing these issues while trying to move forward. However, a lot of you asked me to, so I'm going to address a couple of things from last week before I move on to this week. . .

During last week's Reunion, Brandi said that she heard that Lisa and Ken filed for bankruptcy and had lived in Calabasas -- then blamed me for telling her. I was taken aback because A: I never heard or said Lisa and Ken filed for bankruptcy. If I HAD said that I wouldn't have had a problem saying "Yes, I said that. That's what I heard." Finances have nothing to do with our issues with one another and are very personal. However, if I had said that -- I would have admitted it. B) The "Calabasas" story came from a speech that Ken gave at the party when Lisa and Ken renewed their vows. It was a heartfelt speech that addressed their life and journey together, including some highs and lows. Perhaps that's where this story came from. I didn't appreciate Brandi trying to pull me into her issues with Lisa.

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I still don't get Carlton's obsession with the term "labeling," especially when that is all she has done to me without ever getting to know who I truly am. She calls me a bigot when that is exactly what she has shown herself to be.

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I was genuinely trying to get to know her. I only asked about her religion the first time at her home for lunch, and about her tattoos once in Palm Springs and again when she said she had gotten the now infamous tattoo. I never asked again. In the previews you see me saying "I said it in my blog AND I said it just now," which is about being sorry that I said Carlton was anti-Semitic but that wasn't in the Reunion (In case you noticed and were confused).

I was frustrated with Lisa regarding Carlton because she supported me regarding the argument we had at Ken and Mauricio's birthday dinner. But after Puerto Rico, she changed her tune RE: Carlton and me. For me, I will defend what's right -- not who I am speaking with at the time or who I think will back me.

I tried with Carlton and never tried to hurt or offend her. After months of Carlton attacking me in her interviews, the media, and Twitter I was done -- as you could clearly see at the Reunion. We were never friends, so there is no love lost there.

It seems Kim and Lisa have both been harboring feelings in regarding one another. I think Kim has kept a lot in regarding Lisa, and she is finally speaking up.

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Kim has always felt dismissed by Lisa and was made to feel like she wasn't important enough. When Kim addressed Lisa regarding not going to Kimberly's graduation, she denied being in town. She even went as far as to say that our hairdresser, who saw her at SUR, was hallucinating. If she had just said "I came back early and was exhausted and had to go to SUR," or even "I'm sorry, I just wasn't in the mood to go," then it would have been over.

While I do think Kim took it as being dismissed again, it was made worse by Lisa not being honest about it. In one breath she tells Kim "your hairdresser is hallucinating." Then the next minute she admits to Brandi,  "I've just been busted by Kim." It's moments like these that cause lack of trust.

It was very emotional for all of us watching Kim and Yolanda take their kids off to college. It seems through all of the fighting and disagreements, it's good to know that there is a mutual bond between us: motherhood. Alexia will be leaving this August for college, and the thought of dropping her off leaves a lump in my throat. I dread not waking up to her smile everyday.

Our season is almost done and I am looking forward to moving on from all of this.

Until next week. . .

Kyle