Joyce Tells Brandi and Yolanda to Dream On

Hola mis amores! I hope you all had a beautiful Christmas with your families and loved ones. I was nursing a little cold, but still had an amazing time with family. Someone wrote me on Twitter asking me to remember our troops so I want to ask all of you to pray for our women and men in uniform and for all those out there who cannot be with their families for the holidays. God bless you all my sweet cyber friends! Thank you so much for all the love you send me and please write your comments as I love reading them. xoxo

This week was certainly interesting. . .As you saw, I finally had enough and I am not allowing Brandi to step all over me. Being classy doesn't mean taking someone's abuse over and over. I did give her the benefit of the doubt (too many times), but there came a moment when enough was enough.

At the beginning of the episode I still can't stop laughing about Carlton's magical double standards. She made it very public that she thinks it's creepy that I call my husband "baby" (all the while when she calls Yolanda "baby" and Yolanda calls David "Babydoll").

[video_clip_url:http://player.theplatform.com/p/PHSl-B/yT7k3t_YLXoZ/embed/select/vRprJDRfwXwa]

How do you really get so worked up about my silly nickname for my husband, while I now have to watch you week after week with your sex toys, explaining how you ball gag your husband, and talking about your playroom and your nanny-threesome innuendos? Do whatever you please behind the privacy of your walls, but get your creepmeter in check before you attack me for a nickname.

I am glad you could all hear directly from Brandi's mouth what my husband and I were talking about in the limo -- she gets depressed being around happy and romantic couples! It's sad to hear her say that, but just because she isn't happy doesn't mean she needs to drag everyone around her down to her level of misery. Brandi, there is a quote from Rumi that is perfect for you: "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you've built against it."

When we arrived at Kyle's store, Brandi never said hello until other people arrived. Her friend Jennifer was very sweet and started speaking Spanish to me and I responded in Spanish back to her. I don't understand why Brandi literally nitpicks every single thing I do or say. As I said in the episode: She should learn a bit from her beautiful friends.

While we were at Kyle's fitting, all the dresses were sample sizes (4) so they were too big on both Brandi and myself. Fortunately Kyle ordered some small sizes for the fashion show.

Finally you can see where my "tagline" came from: "In Beverly Hills, they say you can never be too young, too thin, or too rich." Trust me if I could, I would love to take that line back! I am more than aware how superficial this quote is, but it is used more as a running gag in Beverly Hills than taken seriously. At a famous Beverly Hills department store you can actually buy the pillow with that silly slogan. And for the record, I DO believe you can be too young as I am a mother and have two babies. I do believe you can be too thin, as I am the living example of someone who was bullied for being too thin. I added the "too honest" bit because what I DO believe is you can NEVER be too HONEST.

I was hesitant to go to dinner with "the dream team" but Lisa texted me to tell me she had invited some acquaintances and friends in common (Martin and Mohamed) and she wanted to try to start with a clean slate and for everybody to get along. I agreed, as I thought it was a great idea, and I wanted to leave behind all the negativity that had been thrown my way by them. I was told that Brandi was informed that this dinner was for her to make amends.

I wasn't late. . .I arrived exactly at the time I was told. So please Yolanda, save any etiquette lessons (especially after your last dinner).

As for Brandi saying I ignored her when I arrived: I am not exactly sure how she could even expect any more than my polite "Hello, how are you?" I didn't kiss her, because I was not going to give her a hypocritical kiss. I can be polite, but I will not be a fake -- like she's proven to be. She might be used to that, but if someone is rude and evil to me I will not kiss them.

Watching Brandi say yet again that Joyce is an "older person" and that's why I should be Jaqueline proves this girl isn't sorry about anything.

So before we even get to the table to bring us together, Brandi throws out to the bartender "Fill this up before I kill a Puerto Rican." Luckily for her, she made sure I couldn't hear this at the time, but it pretty much sums up her character. This is two for two for her, and yet another remark I cannot accept.

Brandi, you are fighting so hard on social media and every other outlet not to be called certain character traits that I associate with you, but why don't you let your actions shine instead? Use these holidays to do some charity and help some people, perhaps even the very minorities you like to drag down. Then we can believe you are the better person you claim to be on social media instead of the person we see in the flesh and on TV.

The Spanish bothers you, my name bothers you, my love and affection for my husband bothers you. . .If there is anyone in a "competition" it is definitely you! Brandi saying I have to "one up everyone" is ridiculous! She's the one that has constantly attacked me for no reason. Her only reason is that I didn't let her talk crap about her "BFF" Lisa and called her out on it.

When we sat at the dinner table, Lisa and I were having a great conversation about her book. I told her I bought it, and I bought all the girls' (Brandi and Kyle) just to be supportive, but that I didn't have the time to read them all yet. Brandi said that it was very sweet of me to do that. She told us about her friend's movie she bought to support but hadn't watched, so she sympathized with what I was saying. Finally, this was going in the right direction and I thought perhaps we could have a fresh start and a clean slate. Everyone was having a good time and nice conversation when out of the blue she interrupts and says: "Joyce, you and I have lots of friends in common." I responded nicely that we had one friend in common. Then she mentioned her friend Janelle (an acquaintance I like a lot and had good times with the few times I've seen her). At first, Brandi couldn't remember the other friend we have in common's name, but finally recalled Chrystelle. Yes, Chrystelle is a friend and I love her. So I agreed we have two friends in common. I still thought this would go in a positive direction, and perhaps we found a common denominator. Then Brandi proceeds to say "They don't speak well of you."

I am not a $100 bill for everyone to like. I hope Janelle and Chrystelle are not hypocrites like Brandi. I have since then spoken to Chrystelle and she told me she has seen Brandi only twice in her life and has never spoken to her about me. I believe it's just another thing Brandi has created to yet again attack me.

But let's assume that even if her friend Janelle (or whomever else Brandi has met) had spoken bad about me, this was meant to be a dinner to have a fresh start. Why would Brandi be on the attack yet again and bring this up? Then she calls me stupid! Thats the moment where I FINALLY HAD IT WITH BRANDI! I've taken her abuse, her insults, her ignorance, her racial remarks, her bullying, her dismissive behavior towards my language and my culture, her insensitivity, her changing my name. . .ENOUGH!

[video_clip_url:http://player.theplatform.com/p/PHSl-B/yT7k3t_YLXoZ/embed/select/Ve_ro1PKAmK2]

My husband is my love and my partner. He loves me and has my back 100 percent and will always defend me. I'm sure all the husbands out there would also defend their lady if anyone is attacking her. Yolanda tried to tell my husband multiple times to stay out of it. She was simply insensitive. She has been there every time Brandi has attacked me and she has supported her attacks. At her own dinner she did not even try to reprimand Brandi's behavior towards me. So Yolanda, like you said, respect and friendships are earned. I agree completely with you. but as I said; It's a two way street. Don't expect respect if you can't give respect.

It was crazy how they all wanted to give excuses for Brandi's behavior and wanted me to simply shut up.

I think this "dream team" thinks they can say as they please and everyone will be scared -- but they messed with the wrong person. I am sweet and loving. I love people and will always seek the positive in people first. I know how to forgive and move on. But I won't be pushed around and I proved all my life that I AM NOT AFRAID and I can fight when necessary. So "dream team," dream on, but enough is enough and unfortunately for you all, I am NOT afraid of you.