Lisa and Yolanda's Smear Campaign

I had been dreading this day for months. Fighting and rehashing every disagreement we've all had gives me anxiety. All of our faces looked so tense. Especially mine!

It was strange that Camille and Adrienne were not there. I was disappointed that Adrienne didn't show up to explain her side of things. When Brandi first made the comment, everyone felt bad for Adrienne. Then she stopped coming around and lawyers got involved and that started swaying people’s opinions. I wish she would have shown up and let her voice be heard. We all felt let down. I don't think she has handled the situation well from the beginning. If she had, there would have been a very different outcome. It is sad that she won't be back for Season 4. We all went through a lot together and the good times we shared will be missed. Now, on to what happened at the Reunion...

I guess we will start with Yolanda, since that's where Andy started.

Yolanda and I didn't really spend any time together this season. Although she was always invited to the girls’ and my events, she didn't always show up. I had no problem with Yolanda and thought she seemed nice, although cool and standoffish. Then I heard she was saying things about me behind my back.

At the Reunion she was saying that I never made an effort with her. In spite of her being cold toward the group, I was making an effort. I invited her to my parties (on and off camera) asked her to dinner (off camera) and sent her flowers when I heard she was feeling down. I also called her to talk to her about her symptoms before she knew she had Lyme disease. I thought perhaps she was suffering from fibromyalgia, like I do, and was troubleshooting with her as to what it could be. I didn't know her well, but shared with her what I have gone through with fibromyalgia in an attempt to get to know each other better.

It seems all that was forgotten the day of the Reunion.

When she said she was at my home and I didn't offer her a glass of water, I was shocked. We were doing a photo shoot for a magazine and they used my home for the shoot. We had an entire set up of food and drinks for the cast and crew. Most of us didn't even know Yolanda was there until way later. She never came in the house and stayed away from everyone. We were all getting ready together inside and didn't know why Yolanda didn't want to come in. At the Reunion, Brandi said that Yolanda had come from the hospital to take these pictures and was angry we didn't come out. I had never heard that until the Reunion. It makes more sense that she was angry about not feeling well and less about me offering a glass of water.

Yolanda went on at the Reunion to say that I was catty about Brandi by saying she had plastic surgery. She was referring to our dinner in Vegas when we were having a conversation about how Adrienne "lied" about her family secret and I was saying "well, you don't tell people you've had your nose done." Meaning, just because we don't tell everyone every detail of our personal life, it does not mean we are lying. Some things are nobody's business. If it's not hurting anyone else, why do we care?
 
When Lisa said Yolanda told her I was talking about her, I finally had had it with Yolanda being sneaky and two-faced. Yolanda had asked me what happened between Lisa and me and I told her. That was the extent of what I said to Yolanda. She was posing as someone trying to help me fix things with Lisa and I shared the details with her. Yolanda knew how hard I had been trying to patch things up with Lisa; how sad and mean that she would then go back and try to make things worse? Meanwhile, Yolanda was speaking badly about Lisa. What I said at the Reunion is EXACTLY what she said! Yolanda said those things about Lisa to Kim and me. I was really surprised Yolanda didn't own up to that. She tries to come off as being a "straight shooter" and that was simply a bold faced LIE. Everyone knew she was lying. I think Lisa knows too, but didn't want to admit it. Lisa is smarter than that. Although, self-admittedly, not the best judge of character, she is very smart.

Hearing Lisa say she didn't believe it really stung. Especially, since I believe she KNOWS it is the truth. Perhaps her reason is an attempt to discredit me. I am still, one year later, being "punished" for the last Reunion.

What people didn't KNOW was that we had a disagreement off-camera, right before shooting Season 2, that put a damper on our relationship. That disagreement made me feel conflicted at our Season 2 Reunion. I opted to stay quiet when she and Adrienne were fighting. Since then, I have apologized many times hoping to move forward because I do care about Lisa. At times it was frustrating to me because the viewers didn't know WHY I hadn't jumped in to defend Lisa. I chose not to discuss it. I knew if I did it would be impossible to move forward. Meanwhile, Lisa continues to bring up my "not defending" her, every chance she gets. I still don't understand why it was OK for nobody to defend me (or Camille for that matter) when we had our argument at the table in New York City. Everyone stayed quiet. Then there was Vegas, when Camille said Lisa didn't really own SUR. Why was Lisa only mad at me for not defending her and it's OK that Brandi didn't? I had no clue what percentage Lisa does or does not own.

The accusations made by Lisa at the Reunion were so hurtful. I would never let business come before my friends. She knows that. Having Camille, Lisa, and Adrienne as my husband's clients never stopped me from telling them how I felt. EVER. I stuck up for Adrienne because I felt that Brandi was wrong in exposing something Adrienne felt was sacred, and she wasn't around to defend herself.

On top of that, there was no disputing that what Brandi did was wrong. Even Brandi admits that. So why wouldn't I speak up about what I felt was wrong?  If Adrienne had done that to Brandi, I would have done the same thing! What's right is right.

I've started to see that these false accusations that some of the women make are much like politicians who go on smear campaigns.

It really hurts when you care about the person making the false accusations.

Until next week...