Cynthia: I Didn't Know Mal Pushed Kandi

Hello everyone! Welcome back to another drama filled episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta. It's been a couple of episodes since I blogged, so let’s rewind back quickly to the unfortunate fight a couple of weeks ago.

I don't throw the word hate around much, but I have to say that I truly hate seeing people physically fight each other. It actually makes me sick to my stomach. There is nothing wrong with having a difference of opinion, or throwing a little shade every now and then. However, I do have a problem watching people beat up each other. I don't care what the reason is, or who started what. It doesn't matter. Physical violence should never be the answer. At the end of the day everyone is grown and is responsible for their own actions. How we choose to handle situations as people is always a personal choice. It's not about making excuses or pointing fingers. I have apologized publicly for myself, my husband, and for everyone that was there. I know that in my heart everyone involved looks back on that night with embarrassment and regret.

[video_clip_url:http://player.theplatform.com/p/PHSl-B/yT7k3t_YLXoZ/embed/select/HY6om7PfiIom]Let's move on! I admit that it was a little "messy boots" for me to tell the ladies about my conversation with Natalie about the whole Todd opportunist thing. In Natalie's defense, I don't remember if she ever said the word opportunist, but I felt like it was implied. She actually had a lot of very nice things to say about Todd as well, but I guess the negative will always outweigh the positive. It's actually kind of funny, because this whole conversation started off pretty harmless. Everything that was said happened so long ago!

Although I was surprised and thought it was interesting that Natalie knew Todd, the tea that was poured was basically old and stale. I envisioned Kandi handling this bit of news exactly the way that she handled it at the winery. She was not bothered, laughed it off, and pretty much owned her fabulousness with a "girl, bye" attitude at the end of the day. High fives were slapped and that was that. Or so I thought. I really thought we had moved on, so I was a kind of surprised when Kandi brought it back up at Pillow Talk.

That was when I decided to try to talk to Kandi to make sure that she had the whole story. The good and the bad. Big mistake! As you could see, that didn't go too well. In hindsight, I guess I was too much in her personal space. It didn't feel like it to me at the time, but looking back at it all, I guess I was. We both talk with our hands, and I didn't realize at the time that I was using mine any more than she was using hers. I also did not feel that when Peter walked up and asked what was going on that he was necessarily aggressive. I do know that anytime a man is addressing a woman (and it’s not all fun and giggles), it never really looks right. Last but not least, I definitely didn't know until I saw it on tape that Mal pushed Kandi. I actually didn't believe it until I saw the tape, because I just don't remember it happening. I thought Mal was trying to keep Peter and Todd from getting into it by pushing them apart. Mal did tell me that in that moment Todd pushed her, and she instinctually pushed him back. Then all hell broke loose from there. Remember, Mal is my sister first and foremost. She is just as protective of me as the other ladies’ families are protective of them. Just like the other incident, it all happened so quickly it was hard to know who pushed whom and when or why. We may never know exactly how it all started, I am just glad that it is over.

[video_clip_url:http://player.theplatform.com/p/PHSl-B/yT7k3t_YLXoZ/embed/select/qB1B01pXIiFN]Kandi apologized to the group at the spa for her behavior, and I apologized to her for getting in her personal space and for Mal pushing her. With these ladies it's always a matter of time before you bump heads with someone. So I guess it was me and Kandi's turn. It kind of sucks, because Kandi and I have always been cool with each other and have never really had an issue. Just like she said that she likes me, I also like her. So that said, I apologize and accept full responsibility for any part of wrong doing that I contributed to on that night. I apologize on behalf of Peter and my sister as well. I hope that Kandi and I are big enough women to eventually move past this foolishness. I guess you will have to keep watching to find out. Oh yes, when Kandi says that I wouldn't bust a grape, she was 100% correct. I do not and will not ever physically fight another woman.

Thank you all for your continued love and support! I appreciate all of you. More drama is on the way! Make sure you tune in every Sunday night at 8/7c. Only on Bravo!

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