Calling A Spade A Spade

There is a book that I have read called Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, by Richard Carlson. This book has helped me learn how to keep my cool in stressful moments. Over the years, I have become the type of person who rides the wave of life and avoids confrontation. To me, life is too short to get worked up over always being right. There are never any winners in a face-off and even if there were, no one would ever admit to being wrong. Too much wasted energy can be spent analyzing a situation and it never really amounts to anything greater than personal satisfaction. No one is perfect and I'm certainly not. That being said, I have figured out along the way how to change my perception of what is really important in life - like family, friends, and my career. Oh, yeah, and my hair! (ha)

I'm human and sometimes there are definitely times that I have to go "there." It's usually when I feel that someone is just being blatantly disrespectful and dishonest with me. It's never an option to just let things slide without a confrontation of some sort.

In the final episode, I was driven to a point where I had to call a spade a spade. There is never a good time to do that and this time I had to address Josh in the middle of an interview. The interviewer (Jeff Hall) asked Madison, Josh, and I if we had encountered any differences/problems with each other while working in real estate. Josh said "No," Madison said "No," and I had to tell the truth and say, "Yes."

 

I told Jeff about a recent situation where my client, Ronald Richard (Sierra Towers Condo Owner from Episode 2), instructed me that he didn't want Josh Flagg inside the Sierra Towers unit because my client did not want to work with Josh. Josh became upset, accused me of lying, and then said, "I was the one that didn't want to work with him." Well, in that episode, it was confirmed that Ronald Richard instructed me to ban Josh from his unit. Josh continued to accuse me of lying, which put my integrity in question. That is when I decided to call Josh out.

Josh denied ever trying to work with Ronald Richard through the entire series. However, I had proof to back it up that he did. I printed out every email that Ronald Richard had previously forwarded to me and proved that Josh had contacted Ronald Richard many times. I felt that Josh's behavior was obnoxious and I strongly feel that his response in the final episode was nothing more than an effort to cover up his embarrassment. Josh suddenly remembered Ronald Richard after I put the emails in front of his face - how convenient. We all witnessed Josh lose his cool and heard him make negative references towards me and my client. It's my opinion that Josh's actions were very unprofessional. I reminded myself, "don't sweat the small stuff," and that it would be better for me to keep my personal feelings to myself. There was nothing left for me to do but accept what I had felt all along - it is my opinion that Josh is going to continue to behave unprofessionally. I strongly feel that his actions reinforced his immaturity.

I hope that Josh has learned something from this experience. I have learned a lot from this. I hope that we can all grow from life experience and not "sweat the small stuff!"