Toya: When People Are Hurt, They Hurt Others

The Good, the Bad, and the UGLY

THE GOOD

Dr. Jackie, Dr. Simone, Quad, Lisa, Dr. Heavenly, Jill, and myself are all very dynamic and strong women. We wear many hats and strive to succeed in all of them. We are wives, some are mothers, doctors, businesswomen, entrepreneurs, and trail blazers. Dr. Jackie is extremely dedicated to her profession. She is great with her patients, and takes the time with them. Quad is very actively working toward being a businesswoman. She is working on her puppy line and doing all that she can to make sure it is a success. Dr. Simone and Dr. Heavenly, as busy as their professional schedules may be, take the time out of their day to dedicate to their kids and family. They take a pause to be there to pick Michael and Alaura up from school. That makes a difference for a child when they know Mommy, no matter what, will always be there. I know my boys are always extra excited when they see Mommy pull up to get them from school. Jill is a dedicated wife and works with her husband in business. The saying is: “Teamwork makes the dream work,” which is something Eugene and I also strongly believe and practice. In marriage, it is truly a partnership, and I feel being able to be partners in building your empire of family, love, and wealth can be absolutely rewarding. And saving the best for last, I am all about being Mrs. Mega Mom. I am dedicated to raising amazing men and, in the process, loving on my husband and showing him appreciation. Everyone likes to joke on me about being a stay-at-home mom but most know that is far from an easy job, yet I know I make it look all so easy. On top of the fact I look good while doing it! Being a woman is a lot of work, and this group of women displays the epitome of being “Every woman”!

THE BAD

As much as we try to avoid the drama with this group of women, drama is always somewhere waiting in the wings. The issue that transpired between Quad and Lisa has really caused a divide of opinions among the ladies. And due to the fact that Quad and Lisa’s issue has become a legal situation, people are forced to pick sides. It is hard when you have friends and you want them to come out, support you, and have a good time, but they will not attend because the other person is there. When Quad told me that she would not attend Eugene’s party if Lisa were present, it was eye opening, but not a surprise. Dr. Simone decided she wanted to turn up Eugene’s party before the alcohol was truly flowing and made a controversial decision to tell Lisa she was not invited to her upcoming event due to Quad planning to attend. The look on Lisa’s face was pure disappointment. I was sitting there silently thinking about Rodney King’s famous statement, “Why can’t we all just get along?”

THE UGLY

I think when people are hurt, they hurt others and that can truly be a dangerous recipe. As much as we know how hard it is to be a woman and all that we endure, the sheer fact that we say we are uplifting each other, but in truth we are jokingly tearing each other apart, is the UGLIEST of them all. We have a habit to attack and gossip. (I have been guilty of that myself, and it is something I am working on.) At Eugene’s party when Dr. Simone felt like no one was supporting her position, she got up and walked away. I understand that maybe she acknowledged she was at her boiling point of effectively communicating, but that does not make the problem go away.

In the case of Dr. Heavenly, I would say the conversation she had with Dr. John regarding all strippers being prostitutes was extremely judgmental. I would have to agree with Dr. John’s statement, “When you assume…” Speaking on a topic you have no knowledge on, and than making such a blanketed unfounded conclusion comes across as extremely unintelligent. (Something Dr. Heavenly loves to insinuate about me, yet she is the one looking questionable.) Being judgmental is also being critical, negative, disapproving, and disparaging. All very UGLY characteristics.

In life, the Good, the Bad, and the UGLY are three components that each person will constantly endure in various ways. What makes us better is when we are faced with those components, take the lesson that is hidden, learn from those lessons, and than apply the knowledge to be better and do better. We are all a work in progress.

Xoxo,

Mrs. Megamom

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