Vicki Gunvalson: I Think the Delivery Could Have Been a Little Softer
"I’ve been on the receiving end of this type of argument when people go after you, and it’s not fun by any means."
I watched this week’s episode with Steve, and I had a pit in my stomach afterwards. We are all in a different place now, as this was taped over six months ago. I love Shannon, and I feel this situation was not handled right with her, and I will take responsibility for anything that I said that may have been hurtful.
We were all miserable in Jamaica, as it was way too hot and the hotel rooms did not have air conditioning due to an air compressor being broken. They were able to eventually accommodate us on the last few days and moved us to a new villa where it was nice and cool. I think all of our nerves were shot, and things heated up and got out of control.
I think we should have calmly discussed our concerns or issues with Shannon, without going on the attack mode. I’ve been on the receiving end of this type of argument when people go after you, and it’s not fun by any means. When I said that I saw her drinking in the kitchen alone it was a concern of mine. She told me afterwards that she wasn’t drinking alone, but that is what I saw at the time and that is why I said what I said as I was concerned.
I had to defend myself to Shannon when she said “she was there for me”….(a few years ago), because when those ladies accused me of things I did NOT do and turned their back on me at one of the most difficult times of my life, it was devastating. The truth is she was NOT there for me, nor was anyone in this group of women. No one ever reached out to me to see how I was doing when I was at one of the lowest places of my life. Time does heal and life goes on, but during that time I felt very alone. We have come full circle with our friendship, and I don’t want to jeopardize it again. I told Shannon just today that she is in a much better place than she was six months ago when this was filmed, and I’m proud of her strength and accomplishments.
It was taken out of context when I said Shannon has "rich girl problems" when she was talking about having to move again. She was not discussing the amount of support she receives or that she was ungrateful for it, she was just saying she just got settled in her home and now she had to look for a new place.
I don’t know all the history of why Tamra got so upset with Shannon other than what I have heard from Tamra. She was truly concerned for Shannon and felt Shannon wasn’t there for Tamra during that time. I just think the delivery could have been a little “softer.” Like Shannon said, she thought it was resolved at their lunch date at Roger’s Garden, so clearly there was more that transpired after that, which I wasn’t aware of.
I don’t know why Gina and Emily are so obsessed with “being friends with Shannon." It’s clear that they don’t have an authentic interest in her life or what she is going through, nor do I think it’s fair to continue to talk about it. Friendships happen naturally and are never good if they are forced. It’s like they are obsessed with talking about it. Just because they are hanging out with Shannon doesn’t mean they have to be BFF’s. My feelings is to let it flow naturally. Shannon and I don’t see much of Gina and Emily, so I don’t know why they are so focused on it.
For some of the girls to continue to prod Tamra on her friendship with Shannon when they knew it was issue is just plain mean. It is disingenuous of Gina to purposely try to drive a wedge between Tamra and Shannon and then claim to be some victim is frustrating. It’s like she thinks she is going to win Tamra over if she is friends with her and not Shannon? Are we in grade school? Is this a game? Gina does not have the history Tamra and Shannon do, and my advice is to leave them be and let them sort this out on their own. They sure don’t need Gina’s advice on this.
Shannon’s situation is completely different than anyone else’s. Her divorce is nasty and very difficult to handle. Kelly stirred the pot by telling Shannon that Tamra thinks Shannon isn’t a good friend. That's not being a friend at all. She threw that out there and then walked away smirking, which is extremely mean. It is NOT ok talking “crap” on your friend behind her back, and when Kelly said “David must have been a saint” is wrong and NOT ok. She owes Shannon an apology as they are very good friends still.
Now onto the “twerking.” I was embarrassed by this stupid little “twerking” thing that I did. What the heck was I thinking? And no, Tamra…..I DO NOT have butt implants. I have always had a booty. And yes, Tamra, I have been working out more. I don’t know what I was thinking. If Tequila makes Tamra’s clothes fall off, I guess Red Stripe brings my inner twerker out…
I’m looking forward to next week’s episode. Steve and I have been in Cabo this weekend, and it’s making me very excited for my trip to Puerto Vallarta with fans this December 1st -5th. There are still a few more spots left to join us, but you have to book soon. You can get all the details by visiting www.vacationwithVicki.com
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Have a great week!
Love,
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