Cary: You Started It, and You Know It, Lie-Anne!

Love and trust…two qualities that I expect from my friends. Right now, I’m not feeling either. After Brandi-land, I felt sad and defeated. I felt alone, and despite my efforts, I was feeling pretty friendless at the moment.

I felt badly that Stephanie was worried about the status of our friendship, but I get that now, after hearing exactly what she was told. Unfortunately, I wasn’t really able to share my own thoughts on the situation or get much of a word in edge-wise with the glass-throwing fiasco. I think it’s true that when people are put under pressure, their true selves are shown. When Brandi and Stephanie sat with me and asked about what I said about them, I was respectful and direct with beginning my explanation. However, LeeAnne didn’t want for the FULL story or my apology to be heard at all. When she didn’t get a reaction out of me, that’s when the glass throwing happened. But I’m glad to be able to share the truth! By the way, this had nothing to do with LeeAnne; she just needed to take the one glass she found and walk far away.

I was honest with Stephanie when I told her exactly what I said. I did say that “I didn't know if I could be friends with them” because I was so hurt in Mexico. I am sorry that I made that comment. I was very frustrated, and it all went back to the cave dinner in Mexico. I had no idea that these ladies had been talking about me behind my back, especially Brandi. I certainly wasn’t expecting a two-year-old conversation to be used against me when my intention was to help a friend who asked for advice.  I just wish that Brandi had given me the opportunity to talk about her feelings one-on-one. See, LeeAnne has a knack for sabotaging friendships. Look at how she stopped Brandi from responding to Stephanie at Mark’s birthday party. And here we go again — she wouldn’t let Brandi hear from me before throwing another tantrum. It’s getting old. 

So LeeAnne told Brandi that she needed to confront Stephanie about me.  That I was manipulating her… LeeAnne called Brandi and Stephanie puppets while in the same moment, she sat with Brandi as a “friend” and tried to manipulate HER into giving Stephanie an ultimatum regarding our friendship. These are strong women who have their own independent minds.  I’ve only encouraged Stephanie to be confident in that strength. LeeAnne was calling me manipulative while she tried to manipulate Brandi! She gave Brandi the words to say to Stephanie about no longer being my friend.  

I was thankful that Steph convinced me to talk with Brandi. The way that my friend was behaving was not like her at all. This is why it was so important for me to sit with Brandi face to face and explain the truth. Yes, people, I watched Mark’s children when he was married. I also watched several other surgeons’ kids when they traveled. Why? Because I was hunting for a home to wreck? No, genius — I’m a responsible adult who happens to not only be a registered nurse but is also great with kids. Brandi knows this, and better yet, she knows me and that I would never do something like that. I truly appreciated her apology, and I’m glad to have avoided the trap of saying anything personal about her in retaliation. The only way that these things stop is being honest with each other. I’m happy that Brandi and I have put this behind us. 

LeeAnne went over to talk to Mark.  After two years of taking sh-- behind Mark’s back, LeeAnne thought she would just talk with him and invite him to their party. Mark is a direct person. When there’s an issue, if he’s given the opportunity, he’s going to confront the source. I bet she’s going to somehow blame that confrontation on Mark. And he’s just trying to hold his accuser accountable.

What have I lied about to LeeAnne?? Her selling me as a liar to my husband is just so odd… Actually, it’s ironic.  Lie-Anne has a way of conveniently confusing the timeline. I was just as shocked as the rest of the world to see that Two-Face now lives in two realities where she has not been talking about my husband since last year. Mark confronted her about her lies, and she flipped the timeline! I mean, are we watching the same thing??

Maybe we should break this into notecards, which she’s so fond of lately:

-You talked about Mark “getting his d--- sucked” before we went to Mexico! I retaliated in Mexico by speaking negatively about Rich (which was STILL wrong). Now, she wanted to play the victim and acted like I started this? You started it, and you know it, Lie-Anne!

-Did you call our practice a chop shop? She said that it was because “Cary said my doctor isn't a plastic surgeon,” so another yes?!  Which one is a dirty insult, and which is a fact?

-Are you making up lies about Mark?  “I own it,” so is that another yes?!

Let’s just stop with all of this. You’re not forgetful, girl — you just like to lie! As a matter of fact, you’ve told so many lies that even YOU can’t keep up with them, LIE-Anne. 

See you next week for some REAL truth to be revealed…finally!

Cary Deuber

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