Eileen Davidson: My Only Intention Was to Help

This was a week of learning experiences for me. One, I learned that even swans have emergency rooms. Really, Hanky? Not nice to bite the hand that literally feeds you! Get well soon, and learn some swan manners before you’re singing your “swan song.” (Sorry, I couldn’t resist.) Two, during the tour of CBS, I learned that Lisa V. (or Eve Harrington as I’ll now call her) wouldn’t hesitate to steal my job. Three, I find out Lisa R. has had a relationship with her bikini waxer for longer than I’ve known my husband. Four, I also learned that now I can do anything I’ve ever wanted, because Lisa R. had her fanny waxed on national TV. Finally, number five, when we were officially introduced to Erika (and her $189,000 dollar ring) and the age difference between her and her husband Tom is brought up, I learned we all have the worst poker faces on the planet. But all that seems unimportant compared to the real issues here.

Go get a glass of wine, and please excuse me for a moment while I take my foot out of my mouth. Maybe get a snack, too, because my foot is halfway down my throat.

Are you back? Because I need to clarify: During drinks at the Sofitel, Yolanda brought up Taylor questioning her illness to Lisa R. I misunderstood! I assumed she heard about what Lisa R. had said at LVP’s when we met the ponies, so I jumped in with damage control. I thought, “Lisa R. is out of town and hasn’t gotten to talk and apologize to Yo yet.” So I felt it was my job, as both of their friends, to explain. I’m not sure if you know this about me yet, but I like getting things out in the open and resolved! Just ask my husband. He LOVES that about me…as long as I do it after 9:00 AM. But, please believe me, if I had known Yo was only hearing what Taylor had said, I would have never brought it up. Especially when I saw how uncomfortable this information made her. I would have left that convo for Lisa R. to have. My only intention was to help. So why do I feel like I’ve only stoked the fire? Or started a new one?

Yolanda is gearing up to have major surgery. I didn’t understand how intense it was at the time, either. Getting her implants taken out is invasive enough, but removing leakage from her chest cavity and under her arms is a whole new level. It’s not surprising she felt it was time to have a family meeting with her mother and kids. Yolanda lost her father young, and she’s trying to take care of the people she loves. Her talk with her kids, and their reaction about the will being discussed, was very intense and extremely moving. I know how hard this conversation can be, despite how important it is.

I don’t think anyone saw it coming when Yolanda dropped the bombshell about Bella and Anwar being diagnosed with Lyme. This new information is all coming out, and the other ladies and I are now just trying to get everything straight. It does shed more light on Yolanda’s fight; she’s not just battling for her health, but for the health of her children. I think her raising awareness of this disease, through whatever outlet (cough cough Instagram) or just being so raw and open about her struggles on the show, makes more sense than ever before. As a mother, I understand fighting for my kids, but the fact of the matter is I cannot entirely relate to the struggles she’s facing. But I absolutely respect her for it. And after seeing her break down while talking to her mother about the surgery, I dare anyone to accuse her of not really being sick.

Is the universe trying to tell me something? Maybe the desire to have everything out in the open isn’t always the smartest move. But I do feel inherently that communication and understanding are the foundation of any healthy relationship. It’s either one of my best qualities, or one of my worst. I’m starting to wonder...