Caroline Fleming on her "Superficial" Sit Down with Marissa Hermer

Bravotv.com: Tell us about your sit down with Marissa. Did you get the response you were looking for?

Caroline Fleming: I found my sit down with Marissa, sadly, to be very superficial and not very kind. The first time she tried to talk to me was extremely uncomfortable and inappropriate for me as I had gone to the bathroom discreetly. Also we were someone's guests, which for me is not a place for confronting this kind of thing and making a scene. I felt dragged into a conversation that I was not ready to have with Marissa, especially because we were not really friends at this point. At the same time, who I am is honest and transparent and because I was literally taken on the loo seat, I didn't have time to really think about what I wanted to say - hence the coffee meeting a few days later, as I felt I had a lot I needed to say to her.

I could easily have chosen not to have this conversation with Marissa and it is something I would normally let slide with a person that I'm not close to. But I feel that I need to be open and honest, out of respect for my own family, whose opinions of Marissa are up in the air right now. Having made a decision to invite the girls to Denmark, I felt it important to clear the air with Marissa and very sadly, Marissa's style is to roll her eyes and bang her head against a wall and say we have had a conversation a hundred times even though the truth is we have had it twice, once being dragged from the bathroom and second time over coffee. I don't find her coming from a place of kindness or humility or compassion, for that matter - she and I are clearly very different people, and this is a very sensitive and personal subject for me. But I won't leave someone out ever and Denmark is coming up so for me it's a matter of needing to explain to you why I feel like I feel. Then I can let it go and we can then move forward and I hope that she shows a kinder side soon.

Is There Anything Caroline Stanbury Can't Do?

Bravotv.com: How important was taking the girls to Denmark to you? What do you think of the trip so far?   

CF: It means a lot to me to invite the girls to Denmark - a home country is often a huge part of who we are, and experiencing a little of my family’s history gives a better understanding of who I am. So far the trip has had a little more tension than I had hoped, which is the reason why I put it out there for everyone to just speak whatever they feel is unresolve - so we can go home in happiness and harmony. It's a very special place to me and I'm hoping for a happy experience for everyone.

Bravotv.com: Tell us about the decision to move to England considering the media attention you receive in Denmark. 

CF: Growing up in an old aristocratic family means there is always a level of media interest and eyes on you. I have always dreamed of being very true to myself and my heart which can be difficult if everyone is judging you all the time and you are still young and vulnerable and sensitive.I decided to move to England because it was easier for me to exist amongst many more people and in a place where you can do and be whoever you want to be and do it less noticeably - Denmark is five million people compared to the population of the UK which is approximately 65 million people.

Annabelle Neilson Calls All The Ladies Out

Bravotv.com: What do you think of Annabelle’s comments at the dinner table. Was it what you were expecting when you asked everyone to clear the air? 

CF: I think Annabelle is saying the things that have probably bothered her for a while. I opened this forum because I think it's so important in life to be completely honest and always get out what's bothering you instead of letting it grow inside you where it will only cause more damage. And as I am not a supporter of gossip or unkindness of any kind I hoped this could do the wonder of clearing the air completely and everyone to have clean slates.